(Nearly) 30 and flirty and freaking the hell out.

As if the fact that I’m approaching 30 years on this planet isn’t painfully apparent enough, today I made the mistake of opening a long-forgotten app that volunteered just how quickly I’m hurtling towards that milestone.

5 months, 23 days, and 4 hours… If you were wondering.

Since then, my mind has been running wild.

Shit.

Have I achieved everything I wanted to by the time I hit 30?

What did I want to achieve?

Is there specifically anything I haven’t achieved?

Is achieve even a word? It’s stopped sounding like a word.

I suppose I’ve hit that point in life when a woman has to ask herself two questions:

Am I strong, independent, successful woman in the prime of her life? Yes.

Am I sitting in bed in my pants, eating 20 Tesco own brand chicken dippers, watching Sex And The City DVDs on my decade old MacBook that you have to turn on it’s side or else the disc won’t eject? Also yes.

Make that three…

How the hell did I get here?

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A guide to dressing like you don’t give a f**k (when you do still give a little bit of a f**k)

Body positivity. BOPO. It’s the movement of the moment and it fits my body perfectly.

Or so I’d have you believe. Truth is I still hate my body sometimes. I’m led to believe I’m probably the average size in the UK (because whenever I go sale shopping a 14 is a rare trinket to clap eyes on), but I still feel like I take up so much more space than I’ve been allocated on this planet. But, we aren’t talking about that today.

We’re talking about the good days.

We’re taking about the life is too short days.

We’re talking about those elusive, glorious, I don’t give a goddam f**k days.

This guide is based on a series of things that have managed to get me to the point of feeling good in my body. Good enough to not punish it with jeans and long sleeves in the searing 29 degree heatwave that’s still burning away outside.

1. If you can afford it, go on holiday, or to the beach, or to a popular park. Anywhere people just go to relax and sunbathe.

Pop on your sunglasses, open a book to a random page, and just take in your surroundings. I’d always been so concerned about what people would think about me, I never actually took a moment to notice how many people just don’t give a gosh darn damn. That was until I went on holiday in May this year. Beautiful people in bikinis everywhere; big, small, round, square, athletic… Not one of them paying a single toss to anyone outside of their group. Just a sea of people, laughing, having fun, and enjoying the warm Greek sun giving their voluptuous thighs a toast. Absolutely inspiring.

2. Find some bloggers or influencers or BOPO advocates that are around your size and shape.

For me: Helen Anderson and Fuller Figure, Fuller Bust have played a massive part in getting me in my shorts. I just see lot of myself in both, despite them both being just generally confident, rather than specifically body positive. There are hundreds who are specifically body confident though; just search the hashtag #bopo on insta and have a good old perving sesh whenever the mood takes you. Better yet, follow the hashtag.

3. Get yourself something that you cannot wait to wear.

Depending on your preference this could just be a pair of shorts, cami, bikini… Or you might be on Pinterest browsing and building a whole new wardrobe. The idea is not just to show more skin but to wear whatever the hell you fancy. Clothes are fun, they shouldn’t be restrictive or keep you from living your life. For me it was this cute playsuit from H&M that’s been sitting my wardrobe for 2 years unworn.

I rediscovered it. I loved it. It went in the outfit plan for the week. Enough about me; you want something that you’ll be itching to put on as soon as you’ve bought it.

4. Plan your first outing.

How confident are you feeling in your new kickass outfit? You wanna show it off right? So where are you gonna take it? If you’re feeling super fly you could take it shopping for buy more clothes that make you feel this good? (Charity shops are freaking gold mines, and better for the environment). Are you going to the beach to surround yourself with other people who are just enjoying their day with their kickass bods unapologetically existing in the world? Maybe it’s changing in the communal changing area of the gym? If that’s still scary, how about a walk where you won’t see many people, in the woods, or the marina? Hell, if you want to sit in the garden alone I AM HERE FOR IT. GO YOU. WHAT AN AWESOME STEP TO HAVE TAKEN.

5. Be proud of yourself, you’re allowed.

Can you believe what you’ve just achieved?! I’m so proud of you! Take as many bloody pictures as you can and want because this is a moment to commemorate!

6. Repeat!

I would say “simple” but we all know that’s not the case. It might take you days weeks, years to get to step 3 even. And that’s okay. It can take time and if your mental health is going to take a battering over it slow it down and do it in your own time.

Life is short. Buy shorts that are shorter.

A New Direction.

I was doing so well. I’m going to start blogging again. I’m going to do a Hallowe’en Blogtober and then I’m going to make sure I write a little bit every day and stick at it. 

And 6 months later here we are, again. What happened? Well, dear reader, let me fill you in.

At the start of November I went on Holiday to Prague, and suffice to say that I went as part of a couple and came back a single woman. The whole thing was amicable, we still get on well and want the best for each other. But, going from part of a double act for 5.5 years to going to a solo artist overnight was a massive, scary, incomprehensible thing, and the idea of it took a bit of getting used to. I immersed myself in doing all the things I loved, I joined Slimming World, and I threw myself into my work (which I love). When I felt ready I hopped on Tinder and swiped myself a little self-confidence (and found a nice gent). I’ve been ambling along quite happily in the background, planning my future. It all seems to be coming together quiet nicely – yesterday I got the news that I’d been promoted!

Recently I’ve had the itch to start writing again. I’ve found it’s what I need when I can’t sit still, when I feel like I need to do something productive but I don’t know what. I’ve realised though, that I need to change my direction. I started out (on my old blog Blot & Reapply, may she rest in peace) as a beauty blogger, obsessively spending money on products and photographing them in perfect lighting, writing and reviewing in the same way as all the other beauty bloggers. I tried to carry that on when I started this and they joy I found in writing became less and less. So no more of that. Now I’m going to write about whatever I fancy writing about. I’m not going to try to stick to a posting schedule because I am a grown up and it’s just not feasible. And I always feel like a failure if I miss a post.

What I’m probably going to be writing about will include weight loss & fitness, home decor/improvements, reviews of dark ales, general lifestyle posts, mental health, self improvement, style, and of course make up and beauty will still be there.

Let me introduce myself; I’m Charlotte, and I’m starting over.

 

Czech this out – Paranormal Prague

Halloween #Blogtober post 30. I don’t think I’ve mentioned this, but by the time this post is live I will have touched down on the shores of sunny Prague! Just because I’ll be out of the country, doesn’t mean I will be falling short when it comes to enjoying the Halloween festivites. It seems that Prague is a country steeped in history, and so the list of paranormal type things to do and see doesn’t fall short.Β  I’ve researched and researched and researched and this is what I’m hoping tomorrow will look like:

  1. McGee’s Ghost tours of Prague
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    These sound insanely good, and have insanely good reviews. There are two that particularly tickle my fancyΒ  – Underground Walk by Lamplight which takes you though an old Prison, and the Mental Asylum Graveyard Tour.
  2. Prague Ghosts and Legends Museum
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    This pleas eis split into two sections. The first has a huge tome which will take you through the Spirit of Prague. The second takes you directly into the city of ghosts – the streets of old Prague.
  3. The Bone Church
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    Legend has it that a monk went mad and started building things out of human bones – this place is rumoured to have 40,000 people’s bones knocking about. Creepy.

Short and sweet because I’m off on my holidays and I’m too excited to concentrate properly. Farewell!